Why We Stopped Complaining


Last night's shredding my tire process once upon a time would've given full permission to vent my pent up F (Frustrated)-bombs. 

Of course, swearing is abbreviated complaint.  So that was out.

Instead of f'ity this and f'ity that just look at F'ities go--within less than an hour I learned smart phones are truly amazing devices and friends can be counted on.  I learned for example, how far, how many and how open a dozen tire shops were near me.  Tires don't just bounce back to life when they drop too hard off medians--like relationships from incessant complaining.  

Did I mention dinner was waiting the moment I walked in the door complete with cornbread and Kerry gold butter?

Complaining is what self-pity sounds like.   Listen for it.  Like a Valentine--cut it out.

Literally as I'm writing, the news in the background just announced Snapchat went down for four hours yesterday triggering, you guessed it, "a flood of complaints".   Classic.

Philippians 2:14 says, Do all things without grumbling and faultfinding and complaining..

Except..?  Yeahno:  ALL.

I was trailing the Jacker on his annual quest for candy from strangers race last week and after I caught myself griping to my pal about how cold it/I was I said, "Hey, I heard Megs gave up complaining.  Have you talked to him lately?   No, he has been pretty quiet since February..."

Dictionary.com says to COMPLAIN means   1.to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault: 2.to tell of one's pains, ailments, etc.: 3.to make a formal accusation.

Satan is also called the Accuser.  Complaining gives the wrong kingdom my attention.  It is ingratitude.

Latin com- com- + plangere to lament; see plaint  So COMPLAINT is rooted in Grieving. 

The Word says, "Come, all you who are weary, and I will hear you gripe and please whine and tell Me all about how bad it is and how ungrateful you are from every angle all the time and of course train your children up in ridiculously selfish self-centeredness!"  


Wait, NO it doesn't! 

It actually says, "Come, magnify the Lord with me."  "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 

James reminds us that the tongue is a fire and it sets on fire the course of our life and it is set on fire by hell. 

Another verse says out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.

Finally, if you rebuke a wise man, he will love you more.

What happens if just for today, we turn ALL our complaining around--every inch, every one--and then just do that everyday from here on in?

It'll help.  Because sometimes, often even, it crosses over the line into "Cursing."

Inc.com quotes Steven Parton, who insists that `quitting the complaining habit is essential for your physical health, too. "When your brain is firing off these synapses of anger, you're weakening your immune system; you're raising your blood pressure, increasing your risk of heart disease, obesity and diabetes, and a plethora of other negative ailments," he says.

The culprit is the stress hormone cortisol. When you're negative, you release it, and elevated levels of the stuff, "interfere with learning and memory, lower immune function and bone density, increase weight gain, blood pressure, cholesterol, heart disease.... The list goes on and on."

We quit as we realized it is another way of saying `Grumbling', which if you track the metaphor is perhaps the main culprit which kept Israel out of the Promised Land until Jesus (Joshua) led the next generation across the Jordan--40 years later. 

So complaining delays promise.  Wow.

We quit as we listened to how our kids were framing what was happening in their games and whose fault what was.  We quit when we saw what it was stealing. 

We quit because He asked us to.  From complain to come plain to come play!!